Mother's Day

I woke up to a glorious Mother's Day. I was fast asleep when I faintly heard the fan being shut off. It was odd, because I didn't even know Dan was up. Then a small voice whispered in my ear, "Happy Mother's Day." I didn't open my eyes right away, I was still a bit disoriented from being woken from my REM sleep. So after a short moment passed, again I heard, a bit louder this time, "Happy Mother's Day!" I opened my eyes to see Dan, Elijah and Allison, all standing there with breakfast and my coffee on a tray and bearing a present. What a great way to be greeted!

After we all cuddled in bed for a few minutes, and I had eaten my breakfast, I opened my present. It was an iPod! I was so excited! I never thought I would use an iPod, but I bought Dan one for Christmas, and since then have been very jealous. I have never asked for one, but I have asked Dan to purchase songs from iTunes and I have been known to steal it from him. It is nice to go on trips and listen to our whole catalog of music without bringing a ton of CDs. We are hoping to get a docking station so that I can listen to it while I work around the house, but until then, I will use it whenever I can!

I have already been online getting acquainted with iTunes. Dan presented the gift with a gift card for iTunes, so I have already started spending! I love being able to purchase just one song that reminds me of a special memory. It keeps me from having to buy a complete CD that, upon further inspection, isn't a great investment. iTunes also gives a free 30-second sample to make sure it is the version you want. Isn't technology great?!?!

In the future, after I have had some more time to utilize it, I will post what I've been listening to. Until then, I hope you all had a great Mother's Day, too!

Copyright Question

All fellow bloggers,

Where do you find your non-copyright pictures for your posts? I was just contacted by a photographer whose picture I had used in my last post. Apparently I am not able to use just any picture that comes up on google images. This is news to me. So I am wondering where the best websites are to use royalty free pics to make my blog look pretty! Let me know what you use!

And to make sure that I am compliant with all copyright rules, I am using a picture from my own collection. Enjoy!

This is my sister-in-law (on the left) with her friend showing off their coffee mask. Cute, huh?

If God is for us, who can be against us?

He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

Who shall bring any charge against God's elect?

It is God who justifies.

Who is to condemn?

Christ Jesus is the one who died -

more than that, who was raised -

who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us.

ProLife Articles

If you have the chance, spend a few minutes at Al Mohler's blog and read the first three articles he has written this month on abortion. As usual for his writing, they are outstanding. After reading him on a regular basis, I am still amazed at his ability to cut to the heart of the matter, and these three articles are no different.

And, if you can stomach it, check out what John Piper had to say about the recent Supreme Court ruling concerning partial birth abortion. It is graphic, but some things need to be.

Cross Centered Scripture

For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin,

so that in him we might become

the righteousness of God.

2 Corinthians 5:21

Weekend Away

We took a much needed, much anticipated weekend away last weekend, which included staying a night at the Kalahari Resort in Wisconsin Dells. We had a blast with some good friends and thought you might like to see all the fun! (You'll notice there are no pictures of me in a swimsuit - that's the power of running your own blog!) This is Elijah being camera-shy. He was taking a snack break from all the crazy water slides he had ridden!

Dan and Elijah are looking at the "giant" as Elijah described this waterfall. There was so much for him to do, it was a bit overwhelming!

Too impatient to walk around the net, Elijah is trying to get back in line for the water slide as soon as possible! The kid's pool was great - only about 8-10 in. deep in the deepest parts. It was great for really little ones, toddlers, and older kids, too!

This is Alli posing for the camera. I love a baby in a swimsuit!

Lookin' up to her friend Em, who graciously watched her so Dan and I could enjoy some rides every once in a while!

The water park finally wears Alli out. She fell asleep while I held her and we made a successful transition to a soft chair. Her nap was about 2 hours long and it made the rest of the day enjoyable - for Alli, for us, and for everyone else!

If you've never taken advantage of the off-season deals these types of parks offer, then I highly recommend doing it! It was a fun break from the ordinarily dreary, rain-soaked April days. As we left, Elijah was already asking when we would get to come back!

Book Review - "The Cross Centered Life"

What can I say about "The Cross Centered Life" except stop what you are doing now and go out and buy this book!?!? I cannot think of a better book to own on your bookshelf, to read and reread, or to give away.

As I've said before about C.J. Mahaney, he is very easy to read. Don't worry about his writing being "over your head." His style is conversational. His book is short (a mere 85 pages) and if you are disciplined, could easily be read in one sitting. (Although this is nearly impossible for me!)

The message of the book is simple: Keep your gaze on the cross. And by the cross, he implies all that the cross purchased for us. Our justification, sanctification, righteousness, and our ability to grow in gratefulness, joy, and holiness, despite our circumstances.

He focuses on breaking the bonds of legalism and condemnation, which is easy for every believer to tend towards, despite upbringing. Those two chapters alone are worth reading every week! He defines legalism as "seeking to achieve forgiveness from God and acceptance by God through obedience to God." And he defines condemnation as the guilt and shame that brings the burden of depression, guilt, regret and grief. Specifically, he asks these questions regarding condemnation: (pg. 39)

1. Do you relate to God as if you were on a kind of permanent probation, suspecting that at any moment He may haul you back into the jail cell of His disfavor?

2. When you come to worship do you maintain a "respectful distance" from God, as if He were a fascinating but ill-tempered celebrity known for lashing out at His fans?

3. When you read Scripture does it reveal the boundless love of the Savior or merely intensify your condemnation?

4. Are you more aware of your sin than you are of God's grace, given you through the cross?

These are important questions to ask, as I have been guilty on many occasions of answering "Yes" to all of these.

His point is this: if you focus on the cross, all these burdens will be easily given up, in an act of rejoicing and worshipping the God who made us perfect through His Son. Unfortunately, we don't focus on God's grace enough, and that is what this book is trying to teach us to avoid.

He ends the book with multiple, every-day tasks to keep us focused on the cross, and specific verses to memorize and meditate upon. I will share some of the verses in the coming days.

Until then, thank God for all He has done for you! Don't be tempted to move on to more "deep" doctrines, while forgetting the doctrine of what the cross has done for us. It is central to our faith and should be treated that way!

New View from Our Corner of the World!

I've been thinking about trying a new template for sometime, and today I decided it was time! The pink of my old template was starting to annoy me, so it is time for some changes! I'm trying out some new titles for my blog, still thinking about the right one, so check back for that change. Also, I hope to update my friend's blogs link and the links for the blogs I check on a regular basis. No time like spring to do some organizing and updating!

Also, thanks to everyone who has been praying for my dad. He is out of the hospital and enjoying (last I heard) the extension of their vacation that was interrupted. I really appreciate all the notes of encouragement and prayer.

Prayer Request Update

Things are looking better for my dad in TN. Nothing has grown on the culture they took, which looks good that it has not affected his heart. His arm is looking better, and after 3 days on antibiotics, he should be getting out tomorrow. Then they go on their way, continuing the vacation that was so rudely interrupted. He needs to check back with his cardiologist when they return home, but for now, things look good. Thanks, everyone, for praying.

Is this what life looks like when your parents get old?!?!?! ;-)

Prayer Request

I have a prayer request for you all. My mom and dad are on vacation in Tenesee and my dad somehow cut his arm (he doesn't know how it happened). Well, they woke up on Sunday, their 35th anniversary, and his arm was swollen and sore. They went to the emergency room and he was diagnosed with a staph infection, treated with IV antibiotics and sent on their way.

Monday morning his arm was no better, so they travelled to the next town and went to the ER again, only to be told he would have to be admitted. It looks like he will spend the next 3-5 days in the hospital while they treat the infection. As you probably know, staph can be VERY dangerous. In fact, the doctor who is treating him thought she heard a heart murmur and questioned whether this could be a sign that the infection has travelled to his heart. If you know me well, you will remember that this exact thing happened several years ago and damaged his heart to the extent that he needed valve replacement. Back then, if they had waited a day longer, it probably would have taken his life.

So . . . please pray that the dr's will have wisdom in treating this. He is not sick at all, not running a fever (a very good sign that they caught the infection early), and is just sitting in a bed waiting and wanting desperately to be at home. They are travelling with a camping trailer and my mom doesn't feel comfortable towing it, so hopefully she will not need to move it before dad is released.

I'll update as I get more information. Thanks for praying.

The Picture that Begs a Caption . . .

I'll admit it, I was speechless. What would your caption be?

Focused on the Cross

I'll be honest here - It is easy for me, in the business of the day, to lose focus. Even when the day is important and I should discipline myself to stay focused, the inevitable happens and my mind wanders from where it should.

So today is Good Friday. I know a lot of schools and businesses are closed, and Dan is home today, and I found myself waking this morning to the thoughts of what the day will hold, what I NEED to get done and the ever-increasing, never decreasing list of what I WANT to get done.

Somewhere in the course of all these thoughts, I remembered what today was all about. And by God's grace, I have had a blissful day of focusing on the cross. My day did not consist (unfortunately) of endless reading and meditating in a quiet room, but I was able to finish C.J. Mahaney's The Cross Centered Life. (I'll post more on that another day)

As I went about my daily duties, which included running to Walmart and the grocery store (which, by the way, were a mad-house) I contemplated God's gift of His Son and how He purchased me that day on the cross over 2,000 years ago. I was tempted to be in a hurry, and to be impatient with the crowds, but the Holy Spirit gently reminded me of Christ's sacrifice and I found myself unbothered by the traffic. I listened to Christ-exalting music in my car in-between stops and sang along.

Tonight is our church's Good Friday service. Since I am on the worship team, I know which songs we will be singing tonight and I joyfully anticipate being able to worship corporately with my blood-bought family after a day of private worship in the mundane duties of life.

God is so great, and I hope to never lose sight of the glories of the Cross. I hope your Good Friday was indeed good, and that you continue to focus on the Cross.

My Testimony

God blessed me with a special gift from the moment I was born – believing parents. I can never fully know what life would have looked like without them, but I can imagine, and when I do, I am instantly humbled and grateful for that gift.

It was in the context of our believing household that I was introduced to Christ. And as most parent-pleasing children will do, I acknowledged Christ early in life, although to what extent my heart really understood, only God knew. But I comprehended that I was sinful and that Christ had died to forgive sins, and that His gift of eternity in Heaven was mine for the taking. I took . . . on many occasions.

It seems to be the consistent testimony of adolescents in my fundamental upbringing: Praying a prayer of repentance and belief in Christ, enjoying freedom of conscience for a span of time, lapsing back into sin and old patterns, questioning salvation and then either walking an aisle to “surrender” to Christ, or even praying again to get saved. It became my pattern. Summers of church camp, where I heard 3 to 4 messages a day about godly living were instrumental in reinforcing the pattern and sent me into a spiral of questioning my faith based on my ability to keep a list of requirements.

Now please understand me – I do not suppose that my own experience was the intended outcome by those who spent hours devoting their lives to see myself or my friends in our youth group honor Christ, nor do I propose that they are to blame. Although I do fear that my experience was common among even the leaders who sought to fortify my faith. Because our religion was so often based on stoic perseverance by works, I witnessed many Christians who appeared so only in name. I saw believers who kept a list of rules, but lacked joy and obvious fruit. Like the Pharisees Christ reprimanded in Matthew 23, I witnessed many who “tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness.”

By high school, I was an expert at double-living. I knew all the right answers and had all the head knowledge, but I desired to experience all the world had to offer, and I quietly rebelled against the authority of my parents. My rebellion looked pretty tame as compared to others, so I was never really called on the carpet for it. And my natural fear for the worst case scenario to occur kept me from many sinful actions. However, my heart did not actively desire God or His control in my life.

Sometime around my senior year in high school, that began to change. I was introduced to some friends that attended a college Bible study that our church offered and they were genuine believers. Their attitudes reflected true Christianity, yet they were not concerned about that “list of rules” that seemed so dominant in the Christianity I had witnessed. Their love for Christ was a rebuke to me, and though they were not perfect, I saw an example of what a Christian should be.

I will never know when the process of God drawing me to Him ceased and my faith became genuine and the process of sanctification began, but I know that I desired to know God more over the next 4 years of college than I ever had before. I participated in mission trips and street evangelism out of a desire to share Christ, not because it looked good or was a requirement on a list. And since college, God has been good to keep me in churches where true Christianity was practiced, and I have continued to grow.

All those doubts about my salvation from my adolescence vanished at some point as I began to see the work of Christ and the Holy Spirit in my life. It hasn’t been easy, as I have learned to search for signs of grace in my life, instead of putting my trust in a date on the flyleaf of my Bible or in keeping a list of rules, but I have trusted God more than ever before. I know that the Christian life is a battle, and by God’s grace I will keep seeking His glory instead of my own. I rest assured in the promise of Philippians 1:6 – “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

I would love to hear your conversion story. Feel free to post it in the comments!

Testimony Tuesday

I just got this tip from Tina:

Tim Challies ("The World's Most Famous Christian Blogger" as dubbed by the men at Pyromaniacs) has sent out a challenge for all bloggers to post their testimonies on Tuesday, April 3rd. What fun for us all to get to know one another on an even more personal basis by sharing how we came to embrace Christ! You can send an email to Tim and he will include you in a list. He also encouraged those of you who visit blogs, but don't have your own, to include your testimony in the comments section of one or any of the blogs you enjoy.

I know that I will be participating, what about you?

Waiting . . .

While I am still waiting for a chance to download the pictures from Dan's party, I decided to give you a fun link I found. Apparently YouTube gave out it's first awards and this video won for "Most Original." Take a minute to watch and you will see why!

***Disclaimer*** I do not know what the song they are singing is about. I was not listening because I unashamedly got caught up in the spectacle of the video. My guess is that you will too. So if the song is inappropriate in any way, you have my apologies.

Now for a more dignified recommendation, check out this video by my favorite group, The Newsboys. This song ranks as one of the best of all time!

Enjoy the links. I love YouTube!!!

Surprise Party

I have been waiting to post about Dan's surprise birthday party until I had pictures to go along with it, but since I have no idea when that will be, I'll tell you about it now and post pictures later! After all, I want to share the all the fun we had before he turns 31!

For a couple of years now, I have planned to throw a surprise party for Dan on his 30th birthday. Unfortunately, it came up quick this year. About a week and a half before his birthday, I realized that time was running out and if I wanted to surprise him, I better start planning! So I called up Sarah and asked her to conspire with me and then started calling friends to keep the Saturday following his birthday free. I went shopping and bought all the food, except the cake and deli meat and some balloons, which Sarah picked up for me, and stored them in Sarah's garage until Saturday. That was the easy part.

I had to figure out how to get him out of the house Saturday afternoon, and then back by early evening. Tina helped out by watching the kids in the afternoon so Dan and I could go on a "date." I wanted us to have enough time out that it appeared to be a real date, so I concocted a story that included us needing to be home in time for Buff and Tina to go out that evening. That meant we had about 4 hours together in the afternoon. What do you do with 4 hours on a Saturday afternoon without kids? I didn't want to eat out, since I had a ton of food waiting for us back home, so we did what most other parents would love an opportunity to do - we shopped, childless! We went to Home Depot and Menard's and spent our time looking at materials for our never-ending list of home repairs and remodels that we want to do, and then I indulged Dan in one of his favorite shopping stops - the pet store. He loves fish, has a 55 gallon tank at work and loves to dream about one at home (that is a whole other post!) After the surprise, he commented that he should have been suspicious when I was willing to visit 3 fish stores in one afternoon!

So, I sufficiently stalled long enough that we headed home at about the exact time needed for the surprise to work out. We parked in the garage, unloaded some of the bags of goods that we purchased, and Dan walked in the door. One of the kids had hidden in the doorway and shot a rubber band at him, which tipped him off that something was up, and he turned the corner to see 30 of our friends crowded in our little living room. They shouted "surprise" in unison and I just about cried that it had all worked out!

The rest of the evening went great. We had enough food and cake (actually way too many bags of chips!) to feed the crowd, only half of which were adults! We are in that phase of life where we all have small children and the house was filled with 13 kids under 10, 9 of which were 4 and under! It was crazy, but it was a blast!

Dan was totally shocked and surprised, and probably a little embarrassed to be the center of attention. It was worth it to do something big for his birthday, although I probably won't try to surprise him again for quite sometime. As soon as I can load the pictures on the computer, I will post some of them. Check back later to see the festivities!

As I've mentioned before, I am a sucker for quizzes and thought this one was interesting. See how you do!

You Are 60% Left Brained, 40% Right Brained

The left side of your brain controls verbal ability, attention to detail, and reasoning. Left brained people are good at communication and persuading others. If you're left brained, you are likely good at math and logic. Your left brain prefers dogs, reading, and quiet. The right side of your brain is all about creativity and flexibility. Daring and intuitive, right brained people see the world in their unique way. If you're right brained, you likely have a talent for creative writing and art. Your right brain prefers day dreaming, philosophy, and sports.

Are You Right or Left Brained?

More of the "Secret"

I thought the information presented on Oprah about "The Secret" was bad, just wait until you read this post about what the book says. Incredible and sickening.
HT: Tina

I am Married to an Old Man

It seems I am deficient in taking pictures without a child in front of my wonderful husband. This is Dan and Elijah back in '05. Although Elijah has changed a lot, Dan hasn't, so this picture works to wish him a WONDERFUL 30th BIRTHDAY!

We have been joking with our friends for the past couple of years about our fear of turning the big 3-0, and we have been hitting it one-by-one. Dan is the latest, and for the next 8 months I can tease him about being old while I am still in my prime of 29.

I won't ramble about how great he is, seeing that I have embarrassed him enough with other posts (see here, here, here, and here). So I will just end with a loving wish for a memorable 30th .

Knowing God

Well, it took me over a year, but I finally finished reading Knowing God by J.I. Packer. Long thought of as a classic in Christian literature, we embarked on reading and studying it one chapter at a time in our small group. We were interrupted once with a church-wide study (Peacemaking - excellent, but for another post) and just finished it last week.

The book is 22 chapters long, and each chapter stands well on it's own, although they do build on each other. We found they were independant enough that newcomers to the group were not lost picking up in the middle of the book, which is great for the ever-changing dynamic of small groups!

I cannot adequately explain what this book has meant to me in one post, so I hope to post some of the more meaningful passages in the future. Suffice it to say that the author insists that knowing God should be more than an intellectual pursuit, and each chapter revealed something unique to meditate on about God and that drove me to worship Him more. The book is worth it's weight in gold just for that.

I can't stress enough that if you don't own this book, buy it now! It is one you will want to have in your library and is perfect for reading through from cover to cover more than once, as well as refering back to parts of it when needed.

I will quote from the last chapter, since it is most fresh in my mind, concerning Christ's death and the gift of faith:

pg. 265

"The apostolic writers present the death of Christ as the ground and warrant of God's offer of forgiveness, and that we enter into forgiveness through repentance and faith in Christ, will not be disputed. But does this mean that, as a loaded gun is only potentially explosive, and an act of pulling the trigger is needed to make it go off, so Christ's death achieved only a possibility of salvation, needing an exercise of faith on our part to trigger it off and make it actual?

"If so, then it is not strictly Christ's death that saves us at all, any more than it is loading the gun that makes it fire: strictly speaking, we save ourselves by our faith, and for all we know, Christ's death might not have saved anyone, since it might have been the case that nobody believed the gospel. But that is not how the New Testament sees it. The New Testament views is that the death of Christ has actually saved "us all" - all, that is to say, whom God foreknew, and has called and justified, and will in due course glorify. For our faith, which from the human point of view is the means of salvation, is from God's point of view part of the salvation, and is as directly and completely God's gift to us as is the pardon and peace of which faith lays hold."

I will quote some more in the following weeks . . .

Update

I posted a while back (see here and here) about our friends, Kate and Aeron and their pregnancy troubles. Kate has been on bed rest since right after Thanksgiving, while trying to take care of their little one, too.
Well, I rejoice in telling you all that their baby girl was born, safe and sound, on Friday! They will definitely have their hands full with a 12 month-old and a newborn, but God sustained her pregnancy, and for that we are thankful!
Praise God for His undeserved goodness!

Who Can Save the World?

We bought Elijah a Superman costume for Christmas (purchased on clearance just days after Halloween) and he loves to dress up in it and requires that we call him "Superman" while he is wearing the costume.

So this morning, I was helping him put it on and when I finished I said, "Alright, Superman, go and save the world!"

He replied, "Superman can't save the world." To which I answered, "You are right. But do you know who can save the world? God can!"

The little heretic replied, "God can't save the world, only Buzz Lightyear can."

Thank-you Disney . . .

Oprah's Gospel

My post on Oprah's "secret" gospel has generated some great comments. If you haven't read them, stop over to the original post and do so!

I promised to post about what I got from the short 10 minutes that I watched all about the "secret" and I will deliver!

One of the panel "experts" was detailing the idea that we are all made of energy and the principle of like attracting like. He said something to the effect of (in other words, not an exact quote here) "The more energy we put out to something, the bigger it gets. So if you are constantly focused on all your problems then they will only get bigger."

What a great example of our thoughts about God! The more we learn about Him, the more we dwell on Him and meditate on His Word, the bigger He gets in our life! Now, I don't believe He gets any bigger in reality, but in our estimation of Him. And that is worship, to attribute to God the glory that He possesses and the glory He deserves from us.

Unfortunately, I don't think that is what the panel experts were thinking about!

All this talk of positive thinking, Oprah's secret and Joel Osteen led me to a great article written by John Piper about the deciet in prosperity preaching. Go and read it here to be challenged and blessed.

The Gospel According to Oprah

I sat down to feed Allison the other day and found that my usual 4pm show was a rerun, so I started flipping through the channels. I had honestly forgotten that Oprah was on at that time, since I quit the show over a year ago. Even though I enjoy the “makeover” shows and there are some topics that are fun to watch, I found myself being bombarded with humanistic ideas and morals. It wasn’t worth my time or Godly mental health to watch any longer.

But there I was, stuck in a chair and longing to watch something, so I indulged myself and tuned in, hoping for one of those shows that wouldn’t make me shout at the television. I wasn’t so lucky. On the show was a panel of “experts” (basically all motivational speakers) who had contributed to a new DVD entitled “The Secret.” The secret to a happy life, to financial freedom, to the body you’ve always wanted, etc. . . . What was the “secret”? To quote Oprah’s website, and Rhonda, the marketer, er, I mean, discoverer of the “secret”. . .

“The Secret [is] the law of attraction, which is the principle that ‘like attracts like.’ Rhonda calls it ‘the most powerful law in the universe,’ and says it is working all the time. ‘What we do is we attract into our lives the things we want, and that is based on what we're thinking and feeling,’ Rhonda says. The principle explains that we create our own circumstances by the choices we make in life. And the choices we make are fueled by our thoughts—which means our thoughts are the most powerful things we have here on earth.”

That’s it. Now to give Oprah some credit, she pointedly informed us all that she has known the “secret” for years, but just didn’t know it was a “secret.” She’s been telling us all this for years, and I can attest to that, having turned my mind to mush after watching too many hours of her gospel in the past.

And that is exactly what it is – her gospel. And not only hers, although one could argue that she is the biggest voice of it. It really isn’t that different than what Joel Osteen preaches. God wants to bless you, He wants you to have “Your Best Life Now” and all that is missing is us claiming it! Think it is true, act as though it is becoming truth to you in this very moment and it will happen. And as the best false prophets do, there is enough of a nugget of truth in what they speak that it makes it easier to believe. After all, Osteen is a preacher and uses Bible verses to back up his message and Oprah is very religious herself. And then they douse their speeches with true-life stories of those who have obeyed their commands and who are living gloriously happy lives now. The panel was filled with stories of heartbreak, depression, bankruptcy and financial burdens. But now, now they have conquered it all - and you can too!

I tolerated 10 minutes of it before I was so upset I had to change the channel. Back to the Food Network, where you never go wrong, even if it is a rerun. I haven’t stopped thinking about it since, although, and I mourn the thought that millions are accepting this religion and even expecting God to “help those who help themselves.”

The question remains, what if I do all that I can to make my dreams come true, what if I only think good and positive thoughts and I still feel empty? They never address that issue. What if I make my millions and others look up to and adore me, but there is still a void all the adoration fails to fill? Am I just failing in their “system?” Do I just need to think more positive thoughts? But what does this do for me for eternity? It never addresses how I can get my “Best Life Later!”

It never even stops to think that maybe I am not the center of my universe. Maybe the world doesn’t revolve around me. Maybe getting my felt needs fulfilled are not what will really make me happy. Maybe, just maybe, my suffering here on earth is meant to take my eyes off of myself. It never addresses those ideas.

Thankfully Scripture does. I end my thoughts with the wisdom of a man who had everything a heart could desire. This is what he says on the matter. Too bad Oprah won't give his side of the story any airtime . . .

Ecclesiastes 1
1The words of the Preacher, the son of David, king in Jerusalem.
2Vanity of vanities, says the Preacher, vanity of vanities! All is vanity.
3What does man gain by all the toil at which he toils under the sun?
4A generation goes, and a generation comes, but the earth remains forever.
5The sun rises, and the sun goes down, and hastens to the place where it rises.
6The wind blows to the south and goes around to the north;around and around goes the wind, and on its circuits the wind returns.
7All streams run to the sea, but the sea is not full;to the place where the streams flow, there they flow again.
8All things are full of weariness; a man cannot utter it;the eye is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear filled with hearing.
9What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done, and there is nothing new under the sun.
10Is there a thing of which it is said, "See, this is new"?It has been already in the ages before us.
11There is no remembrance of former things, nor will there be any remembranceof later things yet to be among those who come after.

*Check back soon for one good thing I did learn from Oprah’s panel and for a great refutation of this false gospel.

Love Story, Part 3 - Our Engagement

The Christmas break in 1998-1999 found my dad having emergency heart surgery and so I stayed home for the spring semester and worked to pay my way for school in the fall. Dan visited us over the break, while my dad was still in the hospital, and shoveled our snow-filled driveway, further endearing himself to my parents. He returned to Maranatha in January and we settled in to a long-distance relationship. By this time I knew we would get married, but I wasn’t expecting it until he finished college, which would be in the spring of 2000.

I had a friend at home, Alison, who was dating her future husband while he was at Maranatha, too, so we made a couple of treks up there together to visit our guys. I’ll be honest; dating long-distance wasn’t the easiest part of our time together. Dan was working 3 jobs and we never had a lot of time to talk. It seems those insecurities that were present on our first date flared up again. But by God’s grace, we persevered, and it paid off!

I was on my way to visit him the weekend of Valentine’s Day and we were to travel up to his grandparent’s house a few hours north to celebrate his grandpa’s 80th birthday. We had been up there together before, so I noticed when our car started driving another route. Dan told me it was a short cut his Dad had told him about, and if you know his dad, that didn’t surprise me in the least. It wasn’t until we were in downtown Fondulac that I started to mention to Dan that maybe we took a wrong turn somewhere. We kept driving and ended up in a park on the edge of Lake Winnebago, where there was a small lighthouse.

Now Dan and I had already expressed our love of lighthouses to each other before. In fact, we had plans of decorating our home with them and dreams of visiting some of the beautiful lighthouses in America. So I wasn’t about to get my hopes up of something special happening, since I convinced myself that he brought me here to just show me the lighthouse.
It was a freezing cold day, (after all, it was February!) and we walked around the lighthouse when Dan pulled out a beanie baby (remember those?) of a Chihuahua. My mom had been dog sitting one and I fell in love with it and told Dan that I wanted one of my own. So he said something like, “Here is that Chihuahua that you wanted” and when I tried to take it from his hands he wouldn’t let go. When he finally did, I saw a beautiful diamond ring on the dog’s leg and then all the typical stuff happened. He got down of one knee, said some beautiful things (I wish I had recorded it!) and asked me to marry him. I cried and said “yes” a dozen times and then took off my gloves to put on the ring. Problem was, it was so cold that my hands were shriveled and the ring was too big, so we high tailed it to the car so we could warm up.

His plans included a nice breakfast, which explained why he wouldn’t, for the life of me, stop to get me something to eat on the drive up! We told the waitress that we had just gotten engaged, (she wasn’t as excited as we were) and then ate a wonderful breakfast. I still remember that I got stuffed French toast. Mmmmm, yummy!

We traveled the rest of the way to his grandparent’s house and got to announce it to his whole family. It was such a glorious weekend! I remember traveling back to Maranatha that Sunday afternoon when the weight of what lie ahead of us hit me. All of a sudden I was overcome with fear about whether or not we could really do it. Could we make enough money to live while we both finished up college? Where would we live? We had picked a date to marry only 6 months away and there was so much to plan for! We stopped at a gas station (I still point out that station every time we pass it as the “place I freaked out.”) and Dan calmed my nerves. He has always been such a planner; he had already worked out a budget and thought through all the possibilities. It was there that I learned that if Dan thought we could do it, we could. He has never made empty promises to me, and has always been more than conservative when it came to money and finances. I started to trust him to lead me as a husband at that moment.

We married 6 months later on August 14th, and are now 7 years into this adventurous lifetime together. I’ll have to post more about our marriage some other day, maybe for our 8th anniversary this summer! Until then, I hope you enjoyed this trip down memory lane. I love telling this story! Happy Valentine’s Day, Honey! I love you!

Love Story, Part 2

This is part 2 of a continuing story. If you haven't read part 1, scroll down and do so first!

I had a couple of friends who were intent on hooking me up since I was newly single again. Don’t ask my why they took such an interest in my dating dilemma, but praise God they did! They started talking about Dan, the new soccer player everyone was raving about, and asking me if I had met him yet. I hadn’t and when I did, (no offense, honey) I wasn’t impressed. Now don’t get me wrong, I didn’t dislike him, but I wasn’t pining immediately, either. He was cute, tall, blond and played soccer, all qualities I was attracted to, but also very quiet and shy, two qualities I had never been attracted to.

There was some more interaction between us, mostly because of those 2 friends who tried to force the issue, and some because of those silly MBBC rules that required multiple people in vehicles for a trip to Wal-Mart and such. But other than that, not much transpired between us.

Fall Artist Series was fast approaching when I was invited to a party at a home of a student who lived on campus, but whose parents lived relatively near by. I rode to the party with my roommate, Jana, and one of those buddies who were trying to set me up. We arrived and Dan was there. Since we had interacted enough to know each other, we started to talk and for the first time I felt attracted to him. Yes, he was quiet, but also really nice! And I had known enough “life of the party” type guys that I found myself enjoying his meekness. The party ended without anything exciting happening, but I started to think about him more. In fact, I started thinking it would be nice to go to Artist Series with him. After all, everyone went “date crazy” around Artist Series time! Well, I found out shortly from that aforementioned “buddy” that Dan already had a date and that Dan had actually thought I was dating my guy buddy because we rode to the party together! And even though we both insisted we were only friends, it didn’t help our cause when we decided to go to Artist Series together instead of dateless.

After learning that Dan already had a date, I succumbed to the Bible College mindset and had him marrying the girl before they ever went out. I checked him off as “taken” in my mind and tried to move on. Problem was, I couldn’t. I kinda liked him enough already that it was hard to just move on. Then the report got back to me that his Artist Series date hadn’t gone great and they would not be likely to go out again. “Ok, what now?” I thought.

Well, the other guy buddy who was intent on setting me up got it in his mind that Dan and I should be a pair. So he arranged an outing where we would inevitably be paired together and asked me if I wanted to go. I saw through the story and surmised that this was a fix-up, so I told my friend that if Dan wanted me to come, he would need to ask me personally, like a real gentleman! Shortly after, I received my first phone call from Dan. He was nervous and so was I, but we talked and talked and had a great conversation! I started to really look forward to this date, until I found out that his Artist Series date would be coming also. As you can imagine, this was going to be awkward. Especially since her date cancelled at the last minute and that left us in a group of an odd number.

I entered the date unsure of what to expect and nervous that I was “competing” for Dan. I have never been competitive, per se, and especially in the dating arena, where all your insecurities come bounding to the forefront of your mind. So, admittedly, the date was only mediocre. We went to someone’s house and had a bonfire, then watched a movie. It was an awkward assortment of people, as many outings at Maranatha were, so Dan and I didn’t even get to talk a whole lot. We both came back to our dorm and reported to our roommates that it was just an “Ok” date.

Then came Monday morning at Chapel time. I was talking to some college friends that I knew from home and reporting to them about the date when I saw him enter the back of the “gymnatorium.” I slipped back into my seat, which just happened to be on the aisle he walked down, and he approached me and asked if he could sit with me. Now to be fair, Dan, being new to the MBBC mindset, didn’t realize that sitting with me in chapel meant everyone who saw us would automatically assume we were a couple. But that was ok, because after some more fantastic conversations in the library in the following days, we were pretty much inseparable.

The more I got to know Dan, the more I liked him. His shyness faded away, at least around me, and we really connected. His background was pretty similar, and I found that his theology was, too! He wasn’t raised legalistically, so the fears of “all Maranatha men think women shouldn’t wear pants and all CCM is sinful” were gone. In fact, we had a lot of convictions about the same things and both of us were turned off to the legalism we saw. His faith was real, and that calmed my nerves even more. So shortly after we started talking, I invited him home to my house for a Christmas party that my college group hosted. He came, and I think it was that weekend that my dad basically told him that he could marry me! (Dad, how embarrassing!) But it was good to know that my parents like him, probably the first of my boyfriends they ever did!

Another weekend where I met his parents, and then we were officially a couple by Christmas break. That was December 1997.

Tomorrow I will tell you how we got engaged. It was exactly 8 years ago today that Dan asked me to marry him!

Love Story, Part 1

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I thought I would tell the story of how Dan and I met. It isn’t every day that you get to relive the day you fell in love, so I am going to enjoy this, even if you all think it is corny!

I was about to embark on my sophomore year at MBBC when I complained to my parents that I really did not want to go back. I didn’t have a boyfriend, or any real prospects and I was going back to a crazy, dating world. Everyone was dating, or was desperately trying to find someone with which to date. It was somewhat depressing for me, especially because I had experienced such a great summer at home with my college group. It was filled with outstanding Christians that were real in their walk and didn’t know or understand the world of legalistic Bible colleges I felt I was returning to. I desperately wanted to date someone with a similar background and belief system and I felt that there wasn’t anyone like that at Maranatha.

So after venting to my parents, my dad said, “Well, Donette, maybe God will bring someone new to campus this year.” I quickly reminded him that I couldn’t date a younger guy, so the likelihood that would happen was slim. He replied, “Maybe some junior will transfer from another college.” Like most young adults, his parental prediction went in one ear and out the other. I returned to school without thinking twice about what he said.

I was working in the telecounseling office in the admissions office and came across some information for a new student who had transferred in from Cornerstone College in Grand Rapids, MI. I hadn’t met him, so I questioned my workmates about who he was. It seemed everyone already knew of him and they all started telling me how he was this great soccer player who had played on scholarship at Cornerstone and now was going to take our soccer team to great heights. (Our team didn’t have the reputation of greatness, and the campus was obsessed with good athletes. Remember the girl basketball player who had played D-1? She was a legend before she ever stepped foot on the court.) I didn’t think about him again.

Now this is where the story gets fuzzy. Dan swears that we met sooner than I remember, but all I can vouch for is my memory, so that is the version you will get. . . . . . . . . tomorrow. Stay tuned!

Portrait in Sepia

I just love developing pictures in sepia tone. We have matching frames that we put the latest pics of the kids in, and sepia tones really *pop* in the frames. So here are our latest pictures, Elijah is 3 years exactly (we took the pictures on his birthday) and Alli is just over 7 months. With these pictures so close together, is there any doubt that the kids are siblings?

Tagged, again!

This tagging thing keeps me up on my posts! I was tagged by Hindto to give 5 interesting things about myself. This doesn't come easily, since I don't find myself very interesting, but here goes:

1. I have hundreds of ideas for starting my own business. I have always loved the idea of owning a bookstore, but I would only stock books that I agree with, so the market better like my ideas! I also would love to run a coffee shop, especially in cooperation with my sis-in-law, Noelle. She would decorate and teach me the way of the barista, and I would buy books for our customers to read while they sip our delicious coffee. I sell Mary Kay, so that is one of my business ventures, and I have often thought about getting my cosmetology degree, just so I could cut my family's hair and any friends who trust me!

2. I used to laugh when Dan would suggest me working with him (he owns his own business) and tell him that I would rather stay married to him! Now I feel a little differently. After 4 months of him working by himself with no team members, I decided I could do it. Unfortunately, I was at home with a newborn and 2 year old when I had this revelation, so there was no way I could do it! However, if the need ever arises again, I know that I will be more willing to pitch in and help. And who would make a better team member than your spouse? I pretty much always know what he is thinking already! :)

3. In high school, I remember saying that I would never have children because I was scared of the pain (who isn't?) and that I just couldn't imagine myself as a mother. I was more of a feminist than I was willing to admit. One of my best friends, Amber, told me that she couldn't imagine me not being a mother, since I was already so motherly! Trust me, this wasn't a complement to a 17 year old girl! But since having children, I can't imagine life any other way. I love being a mother! I'm so glad I was wrong!

4. All through my childhood and even into college I doubted my salvation. It wasn't until I started identifying signs of the Spirit's work in my life that that issue was resolved. I'm so glad that I know now not to just look at the date in the flyleaf of my Bible and trust a prayer! By the way, this opens a can of worms as to whether or not I was saved as a child, or until I was an adult. Who knows? Only God, and He is at work in my life now, so that is all that matters!

5. Ok, those of you who really know me probably already know this, but for my new readers . . . I tend to be obsessive-compulsive about neatness. So much so that my mom used to purposely move something on my dresser just to see if I would notice - and I always did! Some of my friends even refer to me as "Monica," and if you ever watched the TV show "Friends" you will know what they mean! I struggle not to let this tendency become a sin in my life, and I know it has. When I am more concerned about my house being in my idea of order than in loving and caring for others, I know this is sin. And when I lose my patience when my mom is here and doesn't put things back where they go, I am sinning. Yes, mom, I realize it and am working on it!

So there you have it, the only 5 things that I could come up with this morning! Hope you learned something new about me from this post!

Once A Month Cooking

Thanks to my friend, Rachel, I have been introduced to Once A Month Cooking (OAMC). I have mentioned it before, but I have never taken the time to really write about it, and I just finished a "cook" yesterday, so I thought it might be time to let you all know what it is about.

I was convinced that I would post about it before yesterday even happened, and it turned out not to be the best experience to base it on! I woke up late, the kids didn't cooperate, and I entered the laundry room to find water all over the floor, and in the basement, too! So after a call to Dan, who promised to be home as soon as possible to deal with it, and once Sarah came over, who helps me out by cutting vegetables, browning beef, and chasing the kids, we finally started!

Generally, the prep is the longest part. Weeks before I plan a day to cook, I choose my recipes, make a grocery list (by cutting and pasting from the typed recipe) and do some pre-cooking. I am a bit obsessive-compulsive, so I like my recipes to be typed neatly and I leave them on my refrigerator door for the remainder of the meals, just in case I need to be reminded how to prepare them out of the freezer.

I usually buy 2 whole chickens and put them, completely frozen, in crock pots to cook on low for 8 to 10 hours. After cooling, I pick the meat off the bird (read about that experience) and then the meat is ready for any casserole or soup on my recipe list. 1 chicken (3-4 lbs) usually gives anywhere from 6 to 8 cups of meat, which can cover 3 to 4 recipes for our family.

I try to have the mixture of ground beef and ground turkey browned before the day of the cook also, but this didn't happen yesterday. Oh well, it just made the cooking a bit longer. I learned to mix beef and turkey to make the recipes a bit more healthy and lower fat. I found most cannot tell the difference when mixed together, even husbands who claim to hate ground turkey! (although, to be fair, my husband has never said that!)

If you can manage to chop all vegetables before hand, this makes the cook day go even faster! So if you take the time to prepare thoroughly, the day of becomes assembly only, for the most part. I double all recipes, and most are packaged in 2 in gallon freezer bags. They freeze flat and you can stack them in the freezer. We have a chest freezer, which makes storing meals a lot easier. Last time I did a cook was December 1st, since we were gone over a week during the holidays. And most recipes make enough for a leftover meal for our family, which we love. So making 8 or 9 recipes on the day of the cook equals way more than just 18 meals!

I cannot express how much I enjoy doing this. It takes some preparation, especially while shopping, but the freedom it gives me during the month to grab a meal out of the freezer and not to worry about "What's for dinner?" makes the prep totally worth it.

So this month my family will be eating Green Chile Enchiladas, Chicken Quesadillas, Manicotti, Chicken soup, Chili, Broccoli Casserole, Southwestern Shredded Beef Sandwiches, King Ranch Chicken Casserole and Cheesy Corn Casserole.

Does this sound interesting to you? I would be glad to email all the recipes that I have so that you can try it too!